I'm not, never have been. Actually until a certain age I thought it was normal bussiness 'cause I went to two weddings when I was little: one was a 'regular' wedding and the second was a 'gay' one.
I personally I've never seen the problem. It's natural and as long as they love eachother and it's a healthy relationship, what is it to other people what they do with their love lives? I mean there's so much hate already, why hate love? And it's not even like people choose who they like O.o
I do know people though, like my niece, who dislike same-sex relationships. Not bad people per say, it just uncomfortable for them. I don't mind that, but it changes the moment they go treat them differently, bad mouth them or even bully or attemp violence.
On the other hand I don't like it when gay people -man in particular- take on this persona and excagerate things. It feels forced. I have a friend who did this after his class found out his sexual preferences and he started being picked on. Soon he changed his demenour, acting overly feminine, speaking in a different tone of voice, in a different manner. It was quite ennerving to see him change like that in a matter of weeks. Only when he's not in public he seems to act like his old selve. Kinda like he's hiding under a different kind of mask now. Hence why I don't like it.
Ack, nuuuuuu, why did he have to change? ;A; From what I suppose, I'm pretty sure there are some type of homophobics that take it too seriously, insulting and bashing gays and lesbians and all that. Those are bad people in my definition. I'm not saying they cannot speak their opinion out loud but when you start to hurt someone, that's just the line where you have to stop. You can be homophobic or not but there is a line where you don't have the right to cross over.
Again, I agree everyone has the right to speak their opinion but just no hurting anyone, please? ;3;
I'm lesbian, but I feel like a man so that does not count x'D I am not against homosexuals, but I do not like when exaggerate just to feel different and superior to others only by that law against homophobia ;____;
I agree with everything Yanguchitzure said. People like to jump to conclusions, because we're people.
If we as a human race are meant to get along we need to base each other off something that we all can have. And that is character and integrity. We can't all have the same melanin levels, or the same height, weight, abilities, talents, skills, sexuality, wealth, health, intellect, background or life style. But we all can have character. The more we gear ourselves to judge on character and not on any of those other things we can better get along .
People are not perfect, there is always going to be injustice and prejudice, but creating more of it won't make it go away. And it won't go away completely either. You soften hearts with kindness, not blaming, calling names and condemning others. Condemning and hating people as a whole just because they disagree and calling them hateful just for disagreeing doesn't help anyone's cause.
Totally agree with everything she said too XD Personally, I say everyone has the right to have an opinion and stick with it. To me, it doesn't matter if your opinion makes you homophobic, as long as you're nice to me, I'll be nice to you back~
Aaah, how do I phrase this? It's really just the way you look at the word? I don't see the problem with being labeled "homophobic" either, like I said to Yanguchitzure. It only becomes a problem when you either take the wrong way or they say it like an insult. I mean, people are so different, some people can take 100 insults a day and never stop smiling, some just can't
So basically, I'm just saying that, yes, "homophobic" isn't a label anyone should insult. The same thing with the label "gay", "bisexual", "lesbian" and so on. But there is nothing wrong with the label. There is only something wrong with it if you feel that there is something wrong with it.
I find it very disturbing that people think they're so entitled to other peoples' lives that they need to make their love life their own personal issue. As long as the people in the relationship are both of age, consenting to the relationship, and are not being abusive towards each other, people need to keep their opinions to themselves and stop trying to stifle love with their hatred, IMO. I'm usually very laidback about people having different opinions but homophobia invalidates, hurts, and endangers and entire group of people for something that's as much of a choice as their gender or skin tone, and that's not okay.
This is a label on people that I find very ignorant most of the time, and people are so prone to jump to conclusions about others. Obviously there are people who bully and actively treat lgbt people entirely different as if they weren't human, but assuming anyone who thinks it's wrong or not natural deserves the SAME exact title is a mistake. This is not a black and white issue. It would be wonderful if we all could just understand exactly how the world is and fully know the difference between right and wrong, but being only human this isn't a reality we can accomplish by ourselves.
I don't like the label, I never did, out of anyone I've ever met I don't think anyone actually deserved to be labeled as such even when they differed in opinion. It's normally used as a snap - judgment of others who don't see it in the same light.
Anyway, I wouldn't usually post something of this nature on DA. Actually, I refrain posting anything about this anywhere on the internet, considering strangers usually tend to jump onto an angry retaliation of sorts. I just hope we as a community, race, species can better learn the difference between hate and concern. It only tears us apart further.
Hmmm, you mean you don't like the label "homophobic" right? O: Just asking to clarify 'cause sometimes I understand things very slowly XD Well y'know us humans, we just gotta have a name for everything I guess o3o
People like to create names for people they don't agree with. Most humans have some kind of name for ones they see as different from them, whether it's really an accurate name or not. The mass grouping of people who may even only agree on ONE thing, it happens all the time.^^'
There are many many phobias that have strange names :'D Like that one where you're afraid of holes o3o
I think it's just human nature to give everything a name and label so we can address them as a group, not having to name them one by one... I know the "homophobic" title can be somewhat hurtful but even if I do have a friend that is homophobic, I don't see it as a problem. I can still be friends with them, just because we can't talk about the latest yaoi manga or something like that doesn't mean I have to hate them and they have to hate me ovo'
What I'm trying to say is that labels happen all the time and it's up to people to decide how they want to react to them. But personally, if my friends were to hate gays and lesbians, I would never snap at them D:
People are different, and so I guess everyone is doing their best to classify every type of person so they can understand humans better. Maybe even understand themselves better... Look at me going in to rant mode jkhflakjfhdsakjfhls wtf
I think it's the level that "homophobic" implies some sort of 'hate' towards a particular group in the first place. If someone labeled me a certain way and it puts a specific picture in someone else's head when they hear that word, that may actually have NOTHING to do with me or how I think/act......... it just over-simplifies everything. It makes others quicky draw assumptions about you when you may very well not fit the 'description' of the label at all. Labels can be very hurtful, and it sometimes (or often times, depending on the word) turns into a form of name-calling. Yes labels DO happen all the time, but because it is frequent doesn't necessarily make it a good thing.
It's alright, we all rant
There are labels that are more good than bad.. and their are labels that are more bad than good. The "homophobic" label is most certainly used in a negative light. People who don't really focus on that part of society don't use the term at all, it's foreign to them, and they wouldn't exactly use it to describe themselves either. They'd focus on other parts of their identity. "I'm a writer, I'm a painter, I'm a student". They're not going to say "I'm homophobic", even if they DID own up to the term and feel like lgbt people were lesser.
Yeah I guess that's true :'D Some people can take it better than others, all I know is that everyone thinks differently about someone who is "homophobic". Personally I find people can vary even though they all fit under one label. It starts to turn into a bad thing when everyone supposes that "oh, a homophobic is a bad person. Period. No argument." D:
But to me, if I have a friend that's homophobic, I don't find it bad at all XD Just switch the topic~ I suppose if you're saying to get rid of all the labels that are hurtful, then that would mean getting rid of the words "gay", "lesbian", "black" etc etc. 'Cause those can be hurtful words/labels too. It really depends on the person and how they take it. There is really nothing wrong with these labels in particular, it's only wrong when you think it's wrong, in my opinion :'D
I dunno, I've haven't been in this world long enough to know as much. I tend to want to stay neutral to everything ;v;
"Gay", "lesbian", "black" can very easily be considered descriptor words. Homophobia is a concept, and it presents a different level of meaning. A black person can easily call themselves black, it's not negative in the sense that it's just how they appear on the outside. It's based by their appearance, and the word BY itself with no undertone is just a color, a way someone kind of looks. I'm white, people could use it as an insult but it doesn't change the fact that my skin is pale and lacking in melanin.
The very word "homophobic", just looking at it's parts, means you are afraid of something-- in the literal sense it means that you have an "irrational fear of homosexuals". That is how that word is pieced together. It's not accurate, and it doesn't really make sense. I think the BIGGEST tip off is that basically people who use the word are ONLY talking about other people. The people they consider homophobic don't really CALL themselves such. If a word is only used to describe a group of other people, and that group doesn't use it themselves, I consider that a red flag letting you know that maybe that's not something they would ever consider to a compliment or an accurate description of themselves.
Internet neutrality is mostly a safety net for us. uwu' We see all these people attacking each other and tearing into each other, it just kind of makes you want to step back and not say anything. Sometimes it's worse when it's a friend, and you realize that if they truly knew your opinion on something they might turn and decide you're not a good person or make a harsh call that they don't want to be friends anymore over something so specific. It's brutal, I don't blame you for a neutrality of sorts. Everyone has an opinion, and 'true' neutrality may not even exist... but as far as presenting yourself publicly, sometimes it's a necessity to stay afloat.
On the opposite side of things, it's always a relief to find someone who has a different opinion than you, but at the same time isn't going to rip you apart because you think differently or see different sides of an issue. That way real, honest discussion can open up, without the use of name calling or personal insults.
Well then that is very true O: I usually float from side to side 'cause in debatable topics like this, both sides have very good points OTL Maybe people should change the word into something else? Or maybe get rid of it all together D:
You think that would be a bad thing for the English dictionary? It's not something I use or think about every day, pretty sure all of us could live without that classification o3o Now that I think of it, it does sound like a very unbalanced word. Compared to "gay", "lesbian" and "black", people can literally be proud of that label but I don't see how some people could be proud of being "homophobic" D: And yeah, I totally agree that because I've been on the internet for a long time, I've started to be a little more open-minded about things XD It's really cool to learn about WHY others think like that. You just get the chance to sit back and think~
EDIT: Also, can I just feature all of your comments 'cause they are just brilliant omg
For me its mixed but i can certainly say that i'm not. But, i remember one time when i was at David Busters (A game place like magic mountain) i got off of Dance Dance revolution and when i turned around i saw these two dudes just....hardcore making out. One of them had a full grown beard and for a second my face scrunched in...i dunno disgust? But i wasent ready ya know? It caught me off guard xD